What is the short answer?
Before meeting, a dating product should collect only what it needs, show only what helps respectful matching, and keep sensitive details private by default.
Who is this for?
This is for adults who want real connection but do not want a dating profile to expose legal identity, exact location, boundary details, trusted contacts, safety plans, or private reflections.
What should stay private?
- Legal identity and identity documents.
- Exact birthdate and exact live location.
- Trusted contacts and safety plans.
- Private boundary details and sensitive reflections.
- Reports, moderation notes, and support history.
Your legal name and ID details should never appear on the profile another member sees. Any identity check should stay private and be used only for the reason you agreed to.
What can be public?
A public profile should show only what helps two people decide whether to talk. That may include a display name, age range, city, pronouns, dating goal, pace, communication style, and short prompts.
Why does this matter for trust?
Privacy is not just a rule. It should make the product easier to trust. The less a dating app collects too soon, the less it can lose, share, or ask you to explain before you are ready.
What should stay private?
An identity check should ask only for what it needs. Your legal name and ID details should never appear on the profile another member sees.