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Profile with intention
Start with values, pace, privacy, and how you communicate.
Sample profile
Maya, 34
Direct. Slow to warm up. Public-first. Values privacy, clear expectations, and lower-pressure connection.
Privacy note: legal name and exact location stay out of view until trust grows.
What stays private
Legal nameYou choose when to share
Exact locationNever shown
Your notesStay on this device
Your choiceThe app does not decide for you
Values note: you can rename your values and choose who gets to see them.
Values Compass
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Your top lived values
Choose a few lived signals to see a values summary.
Confidence: not enough contextVisibility: private reflection by default.
Choose a few lived signals to see a values summary.
Confidence: not enough contextVisibility: private reflection by default.
Love note: these words are for clarity, not performance.
Love definition card
Definition
Add your love definition.
I feel loved when
Add what helps you feel loved.
I show love by
Add how you show love.
Love is not
Add what love is not.
Love and freedom
Add when love and freedom work together.
Relationship note: this card helps you name what you want before hope runs ahead.
Relationship definition card
Definition
Add what relationship means to you.
Desired shape
Add the shape you want.
What it should protect
Add what it should protect.
What it should not become
Add what you do not want it to become.
Pace
Add your pace.
Freedom note: use this to say where you want space and where you want steadiness.
Freedom & closeness card
Autonomy needs
Add where you need room.
Closeness needs
Add where you want closeness.
Repair preference
Add how you repair.
Early warning
Add an early warning sign.
Clarity snapshot
Early connection at a careful pace. Privacy stays respected. Slow-down words can be named early. First meet: a public first meet.
Clarity note: clarity helps people speak early. Consent stays active the whole time.
Vision note: this step is for early honesty, not future pressure.
Mutual Vision
Purpose
Add why you are spending time together.
First chapter
Add what a good first chapter looks like.
Pressure to avoid
Add pressure to avoid.
Continue honestly when
Add what would make continuing feel honest.
Compatibility explanation
Current read
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Choose more values and pace signals to see how Humanly Mutual explains fit without pretending to predict love.
Values aligned
Shared values will show up here.
Complementary values
Helpful differences will show up here.
Talk about early
Early tension points will show up here.
Suggested questions
Suggested clarity and vision questions will show up here.
Compatibility note: this uses one sample match to show the format. It offers talking points, not fate.
Safety note: shared values can help conversation. They do not guarantee safety, fit, or honesty.
Safety snapshot
Safety practice: choose a public first meet, use a simple check-in plan, and keep this exit plan ready: No exit plan added yet.
Follow-up note: keep notes private until you want to share them.
Reflective Follow-Up card
Learning
Add what you learned.
Continue or slow-down signal
Add what would make continuing feel honest.
Respectful language
Add respectful follow-up words.
Nudge status
Ready for respectful follow-up.
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Your snapshot
Build your calm dating picture.
Your answers become one simple view of your values, pace, and first-meet plan.
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